What makes a mentoring relationship successful?

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What makes a mentoring relationship successful?
The key to creating effective mentoring relationships lies in the development of trust between two strangers of different ages.

Establishing communication and developing a relationship can often be difficult processes.

The most critical factor in determining whether matches develop into satisfying and effec-tive relationships characterized by high levels of trust is the approach of the mentor. Men-tors who follow a gradual path in trust-building find that the types of support they can offer, and are accepted, broaden considerably once trust has been established.

Effective mentors are more likely to engage in the following practices:

They see themselves as “friends” rather than teachers or parents, and define their role as supporting the youth in a variety of ways.

They are “active listeners.”

They make a commitment to being consistent and dependable, to maintaining a steady presence in the youth’s life.

They understand that the relationship may seem fairly one-sided—they may feel like they are doing all the work—and they take responsibility for keeping the relationship alive.

For example, early in the relationship, youth often test adults to determine
whether they will actually stick around.

Successful mentors regularly initiate contact and ensure that meetings are scheduled, rather than waiting to hear from youth.

They involve the youth in deciding how the pair will spend their time together.

While youth are often reticent about expressing what they want to do, successful mentors take the time to learn about the youth’s interests and provide them with options for how to spend their time, rather than planning everything without their input.

They pay attention to kids’ need for “fun.” Having fun together is a key part of build-ing relationships, and it also provides youth with valuable opportunities that are otherwise often unavailable to them.

mhfnm

我晕，差点当广告禁了，一看是橙子的。

老话题：两人间建立信任和情感纽带，是交流勾通的基础。

Tyr

What makes a mentoring relationship successful?
如何造就成功的辅导关系(如何成为年轻人的良师益友)?

The key to creating effective mentoring relationships lies in the development of trust between two strangers of different ages.
创建有效的辅导关系依赖于在不同年龄段的两个陌生人之间建立和发展互信。

Establishing communication and developing a relationship can often be difficult processes.
(然而，)建立(良好的)沟通和发展相互间的关系常常是一个困难的过程。

The most critical factor in determining whether matches develop into satisfying and effec-tive relationships characterized by high levels of trust is the approach of the mentor. Men-tors who follow a gradual path in trust-building find that the types of support they can offer, and are accepted, broaden considerably once trust has been established.
确定是否能够将这种关系发展为以高度互信为特点的，令人满意的和有效的关系的最关键的因素是成为(年轻人的)导师。通过循序渐进地建立互信，导师们可以发现何种类型的支持是他们能够提供的，被接受的，和在相当程度上扩大支持的类型。

Effective mentors are more likely to engage in the following practices:
有效的导师很可能会使用下列方法:

They see themselves as “friends” rather than teachers or parents, and define their role as supporting the youth in a variety of ways.
他们视自己为(年轻人的)朋友而不是老师或家长。他们定义自己的角色为使用多种方式来支持年轻人。

They are “active listeners.”
他们是积极主动的倾听着。

They make a commitment to being consistent and dependable, to maintaining a steady presence in the youth’s life.
他们承诺提供一致的，可依赖的支持，在年轻人的生活中维持一个稳固的形象。

They understand that the relationship may seem fairly one-sided—they may feel like they are doing all the work—and they take responsibility for keeping the relationship alive.
他们理解相互关系也许看来倒向一边——他们自己感觉自己在做所有的工作——并且他们承担这种保持相互关系活跃的责任。

For example, early in the relationship, youth often test adults to determine
whether they will actually stick around.
例如，在相互关系的早期，年轻人常常测试成人来决定他们自己是否愿意真正的对对方敞开心扉。

Successful mentors regularly initiate contact and ensure that meetings are scheduled, rather than waiting to hear from youth.
成功的导师定期主动发起联系并且确保(与年轻人的)会见被排上日程，而不是等待年轻人主动联系。

They involve the youth in deciding how the pair will spend their time together.
他们让年轻人参与到双方如何一起共度时光的决策中。

While youth are often reticent about expressing what they want to do, successful mentors take the time to learn about the youth’s interests and provide them with options for how to spend their time, rather than planning everything without their input.
当年轻人对自己想做什么有所保留的时候，成功的导师会花时间去理解年轻人的兴趣并且对他们如何度过共同的时光提供一些选项(由年轻人选择)，而不是不理会对方的想法独自计划所有的事情。

They pay attention to kids’ need for “fun.” Having fun together is a key part of build-ing relationships, and it also provides youth with valuable opportunities that are otherwise often unavailable to them.
他们关注孩子们需要乐趣的天性。与对方一起玩耍是建立联系的关键部分，并且它为年轻人提供了非常有价值的机会，很可惜，这种机会现在常常在他们的生活中难以获得。

Tyr

英译中很难受，自己的中文水平有待提高。:(

如焕

两国语言的翻译确实很不容易，翻译技术性文章尚且如此，这些文章更不好译了

要努力！学好英文！

大头橙子

这个版本的有翻译哦……

LUOBIAO

还不及不翻呢

大头橙子

回复 7# LUOBIAO

哈哈，看来罗老师要大显身手咯。：）